Visual first-impressions are important and all, but I'm finding that the "first-impression" clincher for me is the first few things I hear come out of someone's mouth.
What kind of impression am I making when I open my mouth? What realm are my thoughts in and how does that affect those things I say?
Unfortunately a large part of being a mother to small children involves functioning on a superficial level. Survival, fight-or-flight kind of stuff. But if I let my mind dwell on that level uninterrupted, I'm afraid my speech will reflect that and I will come across as a lot duller than the person I flatter myself to be.
I had a moment alone with one of Mr Renn's classmates last week and could not muster one intelligible utterance about my life. I was so caught up with taking care of Sir O, that once he was removed from me for a few minutes I could barely function (whilst Sir O himself was just fine.... eating cheerios on a bench in the mall with his dad). Said classmate tried awfully hard to stimulate a friendly discussion and I was just not able to hold up my end. I felt naked without my baby in front of me, shielding me from the attention of the world.
Working this week on speaking more assertively (and intelligently), making eye contact, and forming complete sentences with good use of all the idioms of speech. There's nothing more attractive than a keen mind. And I know I have one in here somewhere......